Wednesday, 9 April 2014

So I bought This Dress....


I am a relatively conservative dresser.  Not in the sense of wearing suits and button-down shirts, but in that I had instilled in me very strong sense of not looking like a hooker and the fear of accidentally doing so has never left me.  So I am somewhat terrified that if I wear anything short or tight or, heaven forbid, both short and tight, that I am veering dangerously into trashy territory.  And yet I fell for this dress.  I love the colour, I love the lace overlay, and although it is not an expensive dress,  I am hoping it does not look cheap in both senses of the word. It is fantastically comfortable except for the part about not being able to bend over without showing more than I would wish to.

I know the rules:
Don't show legs AND cleavage
If you are over 35 don't wear a dress you can't bend over in
Don't dress like your teenaged daughter.

Hah!  I don't have a teenaged daughter  and my son would, quite frankly, look awful in this dress.  Also, I hate rules. 

I do not own any stilettos and am never likely to.  In fact I don't even own any fancy shoes at the moment, so my version of wearing a dress like this is to treat it a bit like a tunic. Here is my casual styling of it.  I would also pair it with boots and try out my leather and denim jackets with it.  It's not really summer wear so it will go into the closet for awhile anyhow and maybe sometimes over the next year I will be invited to a party.  Hahahahahahaha  Okay, now I'm off to practice deep knee bends.

I know I'm obsessively weird about things like this but it annoys me that due to my right leg being bent and thus at a different angle than the left, it looks thicker than the left leg and so now the lack of balance visually is bothering me.  I just had to share that with you.

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  1. I must've missed the memo - who said you can't show legs and cleavage? Granted, you don't want to look like a teenage hooker, but there's nothing wrong with the lines on that dress. In fact, it looks amazing on you! Glad you bought it ;-)

    Alicia
    spashionista.com

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    1. Somebody said it, but since I am no longer anyone's employee I get to ignore that one! The funny thing is that it was some other customers much older than myself who insisted I should buy this dress. I am probably never in danger of looking like a teenager or a hooker so perhaps I shall flash the legs and cleavage more often. ;-) I have to learn to stop apologising for cleavage.
      Thanks for visiting and commenting, Alicia!

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  2. It's the dress! you bought it the other day? oh my goodness it's fabulous on you, I love the colour, the fit and the length, you have great legs! I'm glad you don't like the rules, they tend to have life sucking qualities don't they? and I think we are sometimes our worst critics over pics, I don't like about 90% of mine I take! x x x

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    1. Yes it is and thank you. I feel good in it but almost feel guilty for feeling good in it. I know, I probably need therapy for that. I don't like 100% of my photos of myself but about 10% are tolerable. LOL
      xo

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  3. That dress is fabulous! You were so right to buy it.
    The first thing I thought when your photo popped up in Bloglovin was "What amazing legs Shawna has" 'cos you do. I can see it working brilliantly with a tatty old denim jacket, your leather jacket and some bad ass biker boots.
    I've never understood that "don't show kegs and cleavage" silliness. If you've got both, why not? xxx

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    1. Thank you, I'm trying to learn to be kinder to my legs. You see I used to be very fit. So now I am rather critical of my out of shape and lacking in muscle tone body. It will get better when I can eventually go for walks again. In the meantime I will stay home and impress the cat with my legs and cleavage. LOL-thanks for stopping by with your unique blend of non-nonsense sweetness.
      xo

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  4. Oh, so so pretty, Shawna, the dress and you. Lace is just so feminine, yet you can funk it up too. And the blue hue is divine. I like the cut-off leggings with it too.

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    1. Thank you. I am always a sucker for some lace. I have had a lifelong fantasy of a blue velvet dress with lace.
      xo

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  5. I love this dress on you. It, by no means, looks cheap or makes you look like a hooker! You look awesome and chic and gorgeous! I think you could definitely rock this without the leggings. I hate rules, too!

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    1. Thank you. I am not sure if I am brave to wear it in public without leggings or tights, but perhaps eventually. Baby steps! LOL
      xo

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  6. The dress is lovely, Shawna, and of course the shorter length shows off those fabulous legs of yours. No, no - don't bat the compliments away, we mean them! It's such an interesting phenomenon, the gap between what we see when we look at ourselves, and what others see. Still, I have a sneaking suspicion that you KNOW you look good in this dress - and you are allowed to say so!
    Actually, despite your fears of looking like a slapper (Brit slang for trashy!) the dress' vibe is elegant and ladylike. It's the colour and the lace, I think, and the sleeves. I think it would still look classy with high heels, but since you don't like them, Vix's suggestions of rocking it up with denim, leather and boots echo my ideas. You don't need to be going to a party - wear it at home and enjoy it! xxx

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    1. LOL-I am quite aware that the dress is flattering, or else I would not have bought it, but it's still a big step for me to wear something like this. I'm glad I am pulling off elegant and ladylike. I thought perhaps I might be doing librarian goes slapper. ;-) Though I think for that I need the hair in a bun so I can take off my glasses and shake out my hair and look sexy.
      xo

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  7. I think a better idea would be to show only one at a time. Meaning, if you are wearing a shorter dress that shows a great deal of leg, then keeo the bosom covered, or visa versa. That way you wont look like a street walker.

    I purchaes a item from ebay that was listed as a dress, but when I received it, it was more a tunic. I should have returned it because I couldnt figure out how to make it work.

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    1. Being taller, many short dresses are more like tunics on me. I don't mind that as I am quite content to wear leggings. :-)

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  8. I've never seen a hooker looking that classy ... and definitely not cheap. The dress looks lovely on you.
    xx

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    1. Thank you. Apparently I am off base worrying it is hookerish. Next step-wear it in public! xo

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  9. You look beautiful, Shawna!! This dress is nothing like trashy - it is elegant, feminine, and can be worn either in a classic way with high heels, or with flats (which you do here brilliantly) for a more casual look, or with more "harsh" looking things like leather, denim etc. But the girls have already said it all! :) I just agree! Congratulations on such a great find!!

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    1. Thank you, I am certainly being reassured. I didn't mean to come off as falsely modest. I know it is flattering, but it is still more blatantly body conscious than I am used to wearing and much shorter than I am used to. It is amazingly comfortable. I could always just sleep in it. ;-)
      xo

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  10. i can see you fab legs - but where is le cleavage? do you mean that unadventurous v-neck? ;-)
    come on. that dress is very pretty on you and the pairing with leggings and flats is perfect. only an unimaginative woman would wear this with stilettos and a tiny golden purse. but you are an artist. all that lace and the powdery color scream for "boho" styling with prints and patterns and embroidery and mountains of jewelry.
    i see embellished sandals or light velour booties.
    i know it is hard after almost a whole life being afraid of what others might think - but you know what? they always think the wrong things anyway what you´r doing because they want so. i had to learn it too - people who are good for you think positive about you, independently from what you wear or do.
    have fun!!!!!
    xxxx

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    1. Okay, it's true, no cleavage, just tight and short. I definitely like the idea of pairing it with prints and embroidery and velvety scarves and boots. I know you get it. I was raised to flaunt nothing, to be conservative and tasteful and demure. I know that I cannot completely trust my own judgement and I needed help. I think I have been lovingly slapped into my senses. ;-)
      xo

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  11. Wow! When we meet for coffee in our biker jackets you could wear this dress, it would look fab. Only thing is I would have to seriously up my game -:)

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    1. We could go shopping together and find you an almost but not quite hooker dress too.
      xo

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  12. Fabulous! The dress suits you very well.
    ~Pam

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  13. Ooh! I clicked on the image before I quite registered the blog name because I loved the silhouette and the lines of your outfit. Great find!

    I agree with the ladies above that this dress is not cleavage-y nor trashy in the slightest, but I understand the reluctance or fear of going into unfamiliar territory. Even when you consult with the intellect multiple times, wearing something that feels physically different or showing a bit of yourself that you're not used to is unsettling.

    I love *waves hand* all of this. Your bangs, the dress, the lacey sleeves, the cut off leggings, the shoes you can kick someone's butt in. Rock it.

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    1. Oh it's nice to see you! I have been wondering how you were doing. Thanks for the lovely compliments. I always relate when you talk about your sturdy ninja legs because I think I have those too, though I've lost a lot of muscle tone of late. Still, looking like I could kick butt is almost as good as being able to.
      xo

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  14. I love this dress and how you've styled it with the leggings. The colour is fantastic on you.

    I think it will look great with a leather jacket.

    bisous
    Suzanne

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    1. Thanks, Suzanne. Leggings are definitely part of my comfort zone. I think this dress will work in at least three seasons, depending how I style it and the blue colour is pretty good for any season too.
      xo

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  15. I love your styling of this! Capri leggings add a nice garden party look, I think. At least, my idea of a garden party. And the dress is gorgeous!

    I wouldn't have noticed the thing about your legs if you didn't mention it. But I think one of your pictures on the wall is about 3mm higher on the left than on the right. ;)

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    1. The pictures on my wall are never straight. Straight pictures are for conventional people! As are symmetrical legs.

      At first when I bought this dress I really didn't know how I was going to style it or wear it but when I put it on with the leggings and the simple shoes I knew it was very me. When I tried it on in the shop I was wearing cowboy boots so I knew from the start it was not destined to be worn with heels.
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