Wednesday, 2 April 2014

Some Thoughts on Makeup

I remember the first time I heard that there were women in this world who refused to face the day or at least the outside world without first putting on their face and I couldn't understand what was wrong with the face they woke up with.  You've already got a face, so why do you think you have to put on a different one?  I was fairly young when I first heard that expression because I had a grandmother who used it.  She wore quite a lot of makeup though she did do it well.  She was a stylish woman and she also dressed very well.  It was about as unthinkable to her to go out with a bare face as it was to go out with no clothes on.  Neither my mother nor I have ever worn enough makeup to actually look much different with it on, and my much beloved maternal grandmother didn't do anything beyond powder her nose, so being seen without makeup has never particularly concerned me. I am seen without it more often than not.  

Lately I have found that there is a psychological boost in it for me to wear a bit of makeup;  it makes me feel that I have made an effort to look my best and that it is worthwhile doing so.  There was a time when that wasn't something I gave much thought to. But now, being often housebound, I could easily get lost in a sweatpants wearing, why should I even bother to shower sort of existence.  Making that little extra effort sends a subliminal message to myself.  It's a way of reminding myself that I am worth that effort, even if I am not going to do anything important or be seen by anyone that day.

 Even when taking out the garbage is the only public appearance I will make, a little bit of tinted lip balm and a pretty sweater with my jeans reminds me not only that I am worth taking care of, but that I found the energy to do it.  I have many days when I don't get dressed, don't do my hair and don't get out of bed much other than to make some tea, but I will get better than this some day.  I will not be cured but I will be better  and  when I have a day where I want to put on my nice clothes and a swipe of tinted lip balm, I feel I am making progress.
                                  With makeup

                                    Without makeup


16 comments:

  1. I like make-up and wear it every day. Not lots, but enough to cover up the blemishes a bit and do something to my piggy little eyes! I daresay no one cares else whether I wear it or not; it's entirely for me, so that I feel I am presenting a tidied up version of me to the world. My mum and sisters are not make-up wearers particularly, apart from a bit of lipstick, so I have no particular family template for female decoration! You look lovely with or without, Shawna, but I agree that there is a psychological aspect to it which says I am making an effort, I am up and about and taking care of me. xxx

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    1. Makeup is definitely an artistic expression for many women as well as that aspect of presenting the tidied up self. It works in many different ways. Some women will put on more of it the worse they feel about themselves and others start to use it when they begin to feel better about themselves. Quite interesting, I think.
      xo

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  2. You are beautiful, with or without the make-up - I love what you have wrote here, and it's so true, you are totally worth the effort, I'm chuffed you feel you are making progress too!
    None of my female relatives wear a lot of make-up, they never did but I have to have eyebrows, lips and mascara, it makes me feel good and I do it for me.

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    1. Aww thanks. :-) I think doing it for yourself is the important thing. It's like wearing the clothes that make you feel good. I love your self expression!
      xo

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  3. makeup.....
    just some fat, pigments and other stuff we want not really know. but it can work magic. and i mean not in the hiding wrinkles or spots/making eyes/lips bigger way. when a woman (or man) starts to play with, not thinking about beauty ideals, then it helps to discover them self. and sometimes it´s like war paint, if we have a bad time and feel weak inside, a made up face tells the audience the opposite. which made them to act different - and that in turn reflects to our struggling self which can grow happier....all quite unconsciously. (i have problems to write that down in english, but i hope you can understand what i try to say)
    in your case the makeup ceremony is a act of love. i´m happy that you found it. to much woman get painted and dressed because they think "you have to do this!" and some of them start to hate them self and neglect their exterior. but in- and outside are not two different things, they always influence each other. whether we like it or not.

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    1. You did quite well expressing that in English. I think that I understood you perfectly. My makeup ceremony, when I indulge, takes me all of two minutes so it's a short ceremony, but you are right, it makes me feel like I am worth the effort and is in no way something I think I have to do. It's a bit of self care. I don't think I look much different with it but sometimes I don't want to look as tired as I really am. I like your point about the inside and outside always influencing each other. That is so true!
      xo

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  4. Yes, I have absolutely no problem facing the world without eye liner and lipstick an spend months at a time in India without either but at home I enjoy the ritual. x

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    1. I see your makeup as an artistic expression, not something you need in order to face the world. Am I right?

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  5. You look lovely both with and without the makeup.
    To me it's not putting on make up that I find tedious … it's taking it back off … the very thought is enough to make me go make up free the majority of the time.
    xx

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    1. Oh yes, taking it off is yucky. That's why I don't wear foundation or mascara as they are the worst. I think that if I did wear more makeup I would use those nice little makeup removing towelettes and then wash again after that!
      xo

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  6. I think you look beautiful with both make up and without, and I'm not just saying that, seriously! You have the kind of young face and perfect skin any woman would dream of!
    I usually look like a zombie in my day to day activities :D I put on make up for taking blog photos and fancy shmancy outings. But bearing in mind I consider a fancy shmancy outing even going for a walk, perhaps I wear make up more often :D

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    1. I am definitely going to adopt you. I hope your mum doesn't mind. an adult daughter seems a lovely idea to me. You look gorgeous when you are fancy shmancy but I will love you when you are a zombie too.
      Thank you for your sweet compliments. I doubt anyone has perfect skin and I sure don't, though I realise I am more fortunate than some. Hormones still plague me and I can wake up with a big red spot on my chin the size of Texas. I've never been to Texas but I'm told it's big and everything there is big.
      xo

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  7. Well you are one of those people who looks great without makeup, but I hear what you're saying. It does make a difference in how we feel some days!

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    1. Aww thank you. Some days I look very tired and generally those days coincide with not going out and being seen anyhow, but if I must go out, I am just vain enough not to want to look that awful in public!

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  8. Your face is lovely with or without make-up, Shawna! I am glad that you feel comfortable both ways. And I do understand what you are saying about making an effort. In my 20s, I wouldn't get out without a make-up, it became a must (although, never really heavy). In my 30s, I learned to love my face and appreciate it the way it is. In my 40s, I learn to balance both approaches. Not to feel frumpy if I have no make-up and still be comfortable with myself. I like the feeling of my fresh skin and I like to think that I give it a rest when I don't "paint" it. But I also enjoy wearing make-up again. It's a bit hard to explain. But probably similar to being naked in public (when the public is NOT naked). Just a bit uncomfortable. I don't think of it as war paint though. But I know that I am more confident and happy with myself when I have at least my eyes done. Maybe just a bit more attractive or "put together" or something. Maybe it is similar to that effort you are describing. Yes, some days I think it is just it!

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  9. I think I may have been a bit like that in my twenties too. It was short lived, maybe a few years but then that was the eighties when everything was a bit intense. Hair, makeup, clothes were all big, bold, and colourful. You can imagine how I didn't quite manage to fit in with that look! I think it is right to do what makes you happiest and most confident.
    xo

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