Tuesday, 24 June 2014

Dress Your Body Beautiful

No, I haven't suddenly forgotten how to use English properly, it's just my new slogan with a double meaning due to dodgy grammar.  That's a thing, isn't it?

I'm thinking of making a sign to hang in my closet; a reminder to see my body as beautiful and to dress it well.  It's so easy to focus on the flaws, so easy to say I can't wear this and I shouldn't wear that and if only this bit were smaller/bigger/firmer.  We all do it and even those held up to us as examples of perfection do it.  Because there is no perfection and all of us are perfectly imperfect. 

I can't say that I love my body and sometimes I feel a bit overwhelmed by this whole movement designed to make us love our bodies because sometimes all it achieves is giving us one more thing we aren't succeeding at related to our bodies.  Damn, I'm not thin, curvy, strong, tanned, or X,Y and Z AND I don't love my body.  I sure am failing.

No, strike that out.  It's not my goal to be any of those things nor is it my goal to love my body.  It's my goal not to think about my body very much, except when I am using it.  And then I intend to be kind to it.  It works hard.  It has struggles, and it has battle scars but it's been with me my whole life so really I guess I am rather fond of it.  It is part of me, but it is not all of me.

I will feed my body nourishing things, keep it clean and tidy, decorate it according to my own tastes and take it out for fresh air and exercise.  I will give it long soaks in a bubble bath and restful sleeps in a comfortable bed.  I will dress it in purple.  And I will remember to be grateful that it can do all the things it can do and that it carries around my brain quite successfully, which is really what it is meant to do.

And here are some thing which to me are beautiful and make me feel good when I wear them.  This dress only has a label which says made in Hong Kong.  There is no brand on it and it has a hand painted picture of a dragonfly and lotus. I would love to know if the dress came that way originally or if some talented person decided to paint here dress.  There is no size label on it either but when I saw it hanging in the window of the thrift shop I just knew it was for me.


 I love the colours in this skirt and it's daringly short so it makes me feel a bit sassy!

Gak-a close up!  I'm trying to show my earrings.  They are one of my favourite pairs which were given to me by my ex husband after I pointed them out at a jewelry booth during Music Fest several years ago.  I have a lot of earrings given to me by him.  He knew it was always a good bet as a gift and had a pretty good sense of my taste.  Likely because I made sure he did.

             Okay, that's it.  We're done.  Thanks for coming, lovely people.

36 comments:

  1. I like your attitude. We should focus on the positive. You're lookin' good here. "Daringly short"? On me, that length is long!

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    1. I don't have your legs! I also have to be able to wear my skirts in public, where I might have to bend over. Of course I must remember to do the dainty dip instead of bending over-lol.
      xoxo

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  2. You're rocking that cute, little flippy skirt and you know it! Go girl!!!

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    1. Thanks Glenda! It was a good buy that skirt, not only the price but it makes me feel good! And when I bought it I didn't even think twice about whether or not it is age appropriate. I figure it is Shawna-appropriate. ;-)
      xoxo

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  3. that red dress was made for you by some chinese elves!!!! you look sooo beautiful in that pic!
    (you don´t have to wear black shoes with it, your tan wedges would be - ahem -perfect) ;-)
    and that skirt is just cute! and i think you should try shorts next, with a funky tunic. i say it again: your legs are fabulous!!!!!!
    xxxx

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    1. Thank you!! I hope the elves I Hong Kong are well treated.
      I have a confession to make. I go about barefoot at home. So when I decide to take a photo I often just stuff my feet into the nearest somewhat appropriate shoes. If the photo shows me that it looks really bad or even just not the best, I make a mental note for when I am going out. LOL

      I am working on the shorts thing. It doesn't get hot enough here for me to feel shorts are a necessity but I like to have some just in case. Today I am doing a super casual version of shorts and tunic. Not sure it's blog-worthy. LOL
      xoxo

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  4. I knew that dress would look brilliant on you!!! As for the short skirt, you have such good pins why would you not wear it. I don't think anyone loves their body, I say you just make the most of what you have and work with it. Sure I would love a flat tum, less bum and boobs, be taller, be browner ya ya ya ya, but hey I have what I have so I get on with it. You look great so don't change a thing, you hear me, not a thing!!!

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    1. Thanks Sue, I adore your version of tough love. I'm working on not requiring perfection of my body. Doesn't that sound silly when said out loud or written down? How about less tum and a flat bum? That's what I've got. Working on embracing it!
      xoxox

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  5. Well I can't give you any information on your little Chinese dress ... but I can tell you it's super cute! So is your sassy skirt ... which by the way, would look great with a denim jacket.
    xx

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    1. Thanks, Jo. I am developing some inner sassy and then letting it out a bit. ;-) You are quite right about the denim jacket. Lucky for me I've got one.
      xoxo

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  6. O la la. Love that skirt Shawna. You look fabulous. You sure have dressed body well to carry brain. Lol. xoxo.

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    1. Thanks Elsie. My brain likes to be dressed well. I makes it feel special.
      xoxo

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  7. The dress! it's exquisite! so, so perfect, you are fabulous in it! and your sassy flippy skirt is awesome, you do have great legs! our bodies are wonderful when you think about it, what we can achieve and do (when we can) is all rather brilliant (I'm very grateful to mine today so I'm having a rest and a nap later, it's earned it!) x x x

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    1. Thank you dear peachy. Sassy and flippy is my new attitude. LOL While I recognise that my legs are shaped well, I still tend to see mostly what is wrong with them. Working on that! I hope your rest and nap are lovely and refreshing.
      xoxo

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  8. Haha! I love my body for what it is, but I don't always love it for what it looks like. That varies on a day to day basis! I love your thoughts on all of this!

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    1. Yes, that's a good way of putting it! Thanks for reading and adding your comment.
      xoxo

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  9. I feel like I have been better about loving my body now that I am getting older, than when I was a teenager. I still have those days, when I see something on a website, or a blog, and want to wear it, knowing damn well that my body shape is just not meant for it. What is great about having a style blog, is the fact that you can take snaps of cute outfits like you've got here, and keep them as a go-to for things you must have really liked how you looked in, and know that they will look great on you!

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    1. Sometimes a certain amount of acceptance and perspective comes with getting older. I look back at pictures of myself in my twenties and think, what the heck was I bothered about? On the other hand if one worries about not having the skin of a mannequin, which one won't ever being a real human being, that tends to be an issue no matter what age.
      It's amazing how taking photos of outfits is so much more useful than a mirror is! I once had the thought that I would print out all the pics of successful outfits and put them on the wall in my walk in closet. Then I remembered that the cleaning lady would see this and I thought it might look a bit vain. LOL I already worry that she notices my closet contents growing.
      xoxoxo

      xoxoxo

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  10. The red dress is gorgeous for so many reasons! And the skirt is darling. I hope you'll wear them often, Shawna! You look great in both of them!! I am surprised you don't want to love your body. :) I personally want to love my chubby body very much. It is as wonderful part of me as my soul. (Brain is all right too. :)

    Much love and hugses!

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  11. LOL-it's not that I don't want to love my body. It's that I don't hold out any hope of achieving that. I'm trying to set realistic goals. I don't hate my body. I would like it to be stronger.
    xoxo

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  12. You wear the red dress from Hong Kong so well. That colour is YOU woman.

    That little flippy skirt is FAB! I want : )

    It is so important to appreciate the little things our bodies allow us to do daily. You never realize it until it breaks down and something stops working. Makes everything else seem rather frivolous.

    bisous
    Suzanne

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    1. You are so right! I have to remember not to beat myself up over what my body can't do and appreciate what it can and how it copes.
      xoxo

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  13. I think there is not one person in this whole wide world who is happy with his body. When I see on TV in interviews where a Victoria Secret Angel say .. don´t like my hands.. don´t like my legs.. WHAT!?!!! Where should "normal" women then start to enumerate? I think it´s much better to see the beautiful things on our bodies and simply to emphasize the benefits :)
    And that's what you have done Shawna!! I´m in love with your red dress outfit. That is now my favorite outfit of you. You look so lovely in it :)
    The skirt is beautiful, the pattern is awesome..love this kind of pattern very much.

    have a wonderful and sunny day
    Dana :)
    http://danalovesfashionandmusic.blogspot.de/

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  14. I like your body! Does that count? :D Seriously, you're a hottie! I don't know a woman who actually likes her body... I don't like mine most of the time, but then I remember I'm skinny and feel happy about it :D

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    1. LOL-sure it counts! I think I am sometimes just mad at mine, for having an illness and thus not being able to be fit. I'm trying to be nicer to it. ;-)
      xoxo

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  15. Sorry, Blogger ate me again. I must taste good! Short and sweet...red dress best look yet on you. A definite style presence and stronger colour than usual. Skirt absolutely flipping gorgeous! Can see that outfit with the new purple earrings as well, although I love these too. XO

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    1. Blogger definitely seems to be acting up lately. Thanks! I must admit I am quite pleased with both items. They make me feel good and I like feeling good!
      xoxo

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  16. You have good legs, flash em more!!!! I love that skirt!!! x

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    1. Thank you, Kezzie. Today it is stormy, wet and cool so my legs requested that I cover them in denim.
      xoxo

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  17. Your bod is indeed beautiful in that red Asian inspired number! Woo-hoooooo! Seriously, the other is very cute, but you should wear the little red dress every day for the rest of your life. Admit it, you feel like a gazillion bucks in it. I know you do.

    I think you get it about all the body-love pressure. I've given up, and there's some peace in that. At a certain age, for me, it became about how I could make the best of what I've got. I really can't say I LOVE how my elderly body looks. That would be too much of a stretch of any reasonable aesthetic. I don't even like the pressure of worrying if I should LOVE whatever shape it's in because it's healthy. I don't hate it, and do the best I can to dress well, smile pretty at myself in the mirror and go out the door. Usually, I forget about it then for the rest of the day!

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    1. I shall abandon the idea of having an LBD and have an LRD instead. Actually, with leggings for the cooler weather and perhaps a cardigan, I really could wear that dress every day for the rest of my life-lol. I could simplify my wardrobe and have the dress copied in a few different colours. The idea rather appeals to me! I do wish I had sewing skills beyond my basic ones and more importantly that I liked sewing. I confess I do not like it. I would much rather wave a magic wand and say bibbity bobbity boo.

      I agree with your philosophy about your body. Do we really believe any of those celebrities who say they love their aging body? I sure don't. Perhaps they are trying to, and more power to them. I aim to achieve acceptance, not love. I didn't love it when it was young and firm, why would I start now? LOL Mind you, if Prince Charming comes along and wishes to love it, that's fine with me!

      What you said about forgetting about it for the rest of the day is exactly what I aim for. It's that kind of acceptance, saying okay it is what it is and let's get on with things, that I aim to achieve. That and remembering that there is no perfection. If I remind myself that when I was young and firm I still thought I had flaws, and that if you ask a model what she doesn't like about her body she can list more than one thing, then it's a lot easier to realise I should just throw a fabulous red Chinese dress on it and get on with things!
      xoxo

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  18. Whether or not you love your body, I bet your body loves you because of those warm baths and wearing purple and all the other ways your make it feel good.

    Your red dress is gorgeous, and so special with the painted lotus and dragonfly! I bet your body loves it when you wear that, too.

    I read your review on The Sisters Brothers and started to comment, but my netbook passed out and hit its head and lost the comment. The book sounds interesting, and I like to read "local" authors. I just heard part of an interview with Tom Perrotta, and I want to look for his works, too.

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    1. My body loves me today because I just took it to a lovely cafe and fed it a roast beef sandwich and borscht. In fact I did that while wearing purple.

      You and I can both claim the author of The Sisters Brothers as 'local' since he grew up on Vancouver Island and now lives in Portland. I will have to investigate Tom Perrotta. I am a big fan of Tom Robbins but I realise that his work may be in the love it or hate it category. I love it because it's weird. LOL Alice Munro-who is certainly famous to Canadians if not Americans, used to live half the year not only in my town but in the very same condominum where I live. I have never met her though. There is another writer from our town, Gail Anderson-Dargatz whom some people really love but I can't say I am a fan.

      There's a yearly event called Words on the Water, in the town just north of me, where they host a variety of Canadian writers who speak and read excerpts from their writings. I end up buying loads of books if I attend that!
      xoxo

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  19. Love both your outfits Shawna.

    Continue to pamper your body and it will continue to look after your and house your special brain!!!

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  20. The red dress is indeed perfect on your, Shawna - great shape and style, beautiful colour. And you look amazing in shorter lengths, those long long legs!
    I get a bit tired of the I Love Everything About My Body thing; it feels no less dull and draining than someone endlessly listing their perceived faults and flaws. Calm acceptance is good, appreciating the strengths and abilities of one's physicality but not relentlessly dwelling on it. Bizarrely, I have found that blogging, which draws extra attention to one's body given that we photograph and display it on the internet for observation and comment, has made me feel a great deal happier about my body, and consequently far less concerned about it. It works, it does what it needs to do, I know how to dress it, and that's all I need! xxxx

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  21. It's funny the things one doesn't believe about oneself. Everyone keeps telling me I have long legs so I am starting to believe it! LOL

    I think I know what you mean about how the blogging and photo taking guides one towards more readily accepting one's body. I think it helps more than a mirror does with dressing too, so perhaps if the photos help us to dress our bodies better, it then follows that we are more accepting of how we look. It also becomes just an ordinary thing to be in a photo and say hay look at this outfit/look at me. LOL though that is something I was raised NOT to do.

    I find I sometimes get tired of posing for the photos and I want to show the clothes but not myself. Maybe I should be like Patti and do headless photos at those times.

    xoxoxoxox

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