How many selfies does it take for me to figure out that my colouring is primarily soft, that I should probably not dye my hair too dark and that black is no more right for me any more than warm tones are? Well, it takes about this many:
I get a reddish tint in my hair in some lighting but regardless of hair colour I think it's quite obvious that softer colours are better. I don't have makeup on in these pictures and yet the soft colours can make my complexion quite rosy.
Compare those soft colours with this black intruding on the purpe colour and see how tired I look. While I love it, I am not sure that the purple with gold is working for me but I do think it is better than the black.
Deep chocolate brown seems to work, especially with my hair a bit darker.
Sexy shoulder! This sweater slips off all the time so I only wear it at home. Here, I think grey is working better than black although this sweater is actually a mix of tones and reads a bit muddy in the photo. Perhaps I look nice in mud. I have lately been obsessed with a sort of muddy grey-brown and pinning lots of clothing of this colour on Pinterest.
Why did it take me this long to figure it out? It took a collection of photos, which seem to reveal more than looking in the mirror does, to show me what I truly look like. It also took acceptance of the fact that overall I have a soft look. I used to think that I looked boring and that soft, muted colours would make me disappear. I have changed my mind and it's about bloody time! Soft and muted does not equal dull and boring. I feel 'right' in those colours. The neutrals I want to work with are cool browns, taupe and charcoal grey.
This is where the excessive thinking part comes in and I have had to edit this several times so as to get it down to a small selection of rambling thoughts.
In a nutshell, or the closest thing to nutshells that I can do, I want to eliminate black and I am the sort of person who once she decides on something jumps right in. There has been plenty of thinking. Now I want action. BUT it isn't easy. I have a large collection of black things most of which I love for the style and comfort if not the colour.
* eliminate black clothing but still use black in hosiery/footwear (I suspect this will annoy me for feeling incomplete)
* change hosiery to grey but still wear black shoes/boots and embrace contrast (confess to not liking this idea as I like a more blended look)
* dye my shoes/boots/handbags (big job and risky but possible)
* sell the black shoes/boots/handbags (see concern listed below)
* put the black items away out of sight, live without them and don't make any other decision yet (also called procrastination)
* it feels wasteful and frivolous to abandon a large and good quality collection of boots/shoes/bags GUILT
* I really like the shoes and boots for their style and comfort
Does black work for you? Do you care? If you don't wear black, what do you wear instead? How do you treat the hosiery/footwear relationship? I would love to hear about what you do.