I've been working with the assumption for some time, that my current body shape is a rectangle. It has changed significantly in my lifetime, something that some experts say doesn't happen but I can assure them it does. As a skinny teen and twenty-something I had a tiny waist, small bust and an obvious waist-hip definition. My shoulders are slightly narrow and rounded and just slightly narrower than my hips. Weight gain went to my thighs first, though not my bottom. So, I considered myself a pear shape and dressed accordingly.
Pregnancy, hormones, aging, hormones, weight gain, hormones...
I grew a large bust and thickened around the middle. Despite having a definite bosom I tend to feel sort of large and shapeless. A big block with boobs, is how I would describe myself. I decided I was a rectangular shape though I come fairly close to the shape Trinny and Susannah call Vase. At first glance it looks like I am rather lucky. Sure, In confess I don't look too bad naked considering my age, but with clothing on it's another matter.
In their body shape analysis I think they are fairly generous in what they call a defined waist and as usual the advice is to accentuate the waist, belts, nipped in jackets, fitted dresses. This just doesn't work for me. I don't find accentuating my waist works at all. A belt around my middle just says hey look here where there is barely a waist and for some reason I am extremely uncomfortable with a waist belt. The end result might be a great figure and a scowling face. Also, my lifestyle is much too casual for fitted dresses and nipped at the waist jackets.
I'm just trying to figure out how to not look like a blob in jeans and a blouse.
In a recent post I used a photo of myself in jeans and a blue blouse, the way I would be dressed for a day at home. Of course if I suddenly went to the pub or the grocery store or for a walk around the block I would remain dressed like that. I would just add the scarf and boots.
I love the blouse, but I don't think it's terribly flattering because it's not fitted enough to my shape. If I whittled down my closet to only things fitted to my shape I wouldn't have very much.
Here she is, the large rectangle with boobs
And here ( yes I cropped off my head because I'm tired of photos of my face)
I don't know whether to just give up or perhaps I should give up blouses, since they style I need in a blouse is really difficult to find. Or should I have some blouses tailored? I don't have the skills to take in the side seams properly. I'm afraid I would make a mess of it.
style- fitted with seaming, no collar, scoop neck
other- natural fabrics and the right colours
I think that what is happening is that the size I need to buy for fitting the bust leaves the rest of the blouse looking sloppy. Also, I am attracted to loose fits for comfort but have to admit they don't flatter me. Or at least they leave me looking like a rectangle with boobs.
Even tee shirts are often box shaped and I do a partial tuck and leave the rest sort of slouchy. I suspect that the way I dress makes me look larger and more shapeless than I am but I don't seem to be successful at fixing this.
Perhaps I am asking myself if it's worth the cost of tailoring inexpensive tee shirts and blouses. It will cost me more than the garments did, but if I like them and they are well made could it perhaps be worth it?
I am quite stuck. I don't know if I am seeing myself accurately and I don't know if I should make any changes to my clothing or just forget about it. Part of me definitely wants to insist that I do not have to dress to emphasise my shape because I am more than just my shape. But another part of me does not want to be represented as a shape I am not. Sometimes I think it's just that I don't recognise myself in photos. In my head I am still a skinny girl with a slightly pear shaped bone structure. Whose boobs are those?
On a cheerier note, I am wearing yellow today. I love soft yellows, as you may know from a previous post, but have been scared of it for years. I must have tried some unflattering yellow years ago and concluded that all yellows were ruled out. I thought it matched my skintone too much-yellow face, yellow shirt. Now I am mad for yellow, though I will admit it's specific yellows. Muted, soft, slightly browned, I like it from cream to old gold and various versions in between. I dyed today's shirt. It was a white tee shirt previously and I'm very happy with the result. It's slightly darker in reality than shows in the photo. My camera doesn't like yellow and tends to whiten and lighten it. My shirt is closer to the yellow on the left than the one on the right.
Apparently my favourite yellow is Naples Yellow
I'm dipping my toes in the yellow ocean and working my towards wearing more old gold and ochre.
I've successfully digressed to my current obsession: yellow and gold.
Please tell me in the comments what you think about my blouse situation. What would you do, or advise? Give up blouses? Tailor the blouses? Hold out for just the right blouses?